This post was actually inspired by another that I felt was quite shallow. It claimed that we need less attachments to have peace but it actually went a little too far (in my opinion) by suggesting that we should have more of a “sweep responsibility under the rug” mentality. Of course, if you sweep too many things under the rug, a hump develops that will cause people to trip.
I prefer a more straight-forward approach that is meeting your issues head-on. These are 6 areas that I believe will lead to a much fuller life; one with meaning and purpose.
Seeking Others’ Approval
This is somewhat true and somewhat false. To be able to get things done in your own life, there needs to be some approval by others. Living your life to please others is different…because it is impossible to please everyone. But I guarantee you, if you want to ever have a happy marriage or decent career, you need to find the happy medium. If you are so selfish and so rich that you believe that this doesn’t apply to you, have a happy empty life and stop reading this post.
For the most part, social media is something that you can control. If you do not want to see the embarrassing pictures from when you got drunk at the party last weekend, stop doing stupid shit like that and they won’t have anything to take a picture of. And if you are using any branch of social media as your main means of communication, you need help. Try Skype (That’s a joke).
“Live in the moment” is commonly heard these days. While there are great reasons to experience great moments, if that is what you live for, your life will be empty and you may die that way. Better said may be to live as if it were your last day alive and care for your posterity, not so much your posterior.
Rather than toss your exes out on their arses like dirty laundry when you have had enough of them, maybe you should look introspectively and figure out why you end up with short term relationships, abusive people, etc. Examine your own choices rather than tossing them in the dirty laundry bin. Keep it up and sooner or later, the dirty laundry will have to be dealt with.
The Fallacy of Indecision
Indecision has played itself off as a procrastination or longer choice for making a decision. Here is the truth. Indecision is a decision. It is Plan C when you only had Plan A or B. Make a conscious decision to make a decision (even if it is the wrong one) or alleviate the phrase “I don’t know” from your daily vocabulary.
Dwelling on the Past
The only thing you can change about the past is how you look at it. There are always, I repeat, ALWAYS something positive that can come from any negative event in our life. For examples, please refer to the Not So Typical Thanksgiving List
. It really does depend on how you look at it. I have seen people give thanks for some of the most horrific events because it led them to a new understanding of their own purpose in life. There is much healing in this.
While these are just short bits of wisdom that have been learned through much trial and error, each of them can be expounded upon greatly. Of course, you don’t have to agree with all of them. You can choose to find out for yourself…and make your own mistakes to learn from. I prefer to attempt to “stand on the shoulders of giants” whenever I can.