Sometimes we just don’t understand why things happen. You work hard on your marriage, job, house and/or family, believing that you are doing well and then something happens that discourages you and takes you off your chosen path. You may wonder “Why? I was making progress.” Personally, I get annoyed at the distraction because it usually seems like it’s only purpose is to distract. If I am not careful, it can affect my focus for a long time. So what is a guy to do? Not deal with it and have it repeat itself so that it becomes insurmountable to deal with? What would you like to see as the outcome? Get creative here. It is time to fill a gap and possibly set a habit that will serve you for the rest of your days.
Think to yourself, “If this had not happened, what would I be doing?” You can look forward and see yourself talking about the event and laughing about it and the lessons learned. But isn’t it true that distractions happen every day and it is really how we react to them that is important?
Sometimes, it is very simple. It is so simple that the answer is right under our noses.
Yes, I know that we realize that a distraction is taking away from our focus and that we need to refocus but let’s simplify. Focus. Definition. It is both a noun and a verb. Putting the two meanings together reads like this:
“Adapt to the prevailing level of light and become able to clearly see the center of interest or activity.”
Its almost like a command. We understand the last part. That is the goal. It is the first part, the verb that we want. “Adapt to the prevailing level”.
What would happen if your eyes never adapted to light when you walked out of a dark room? Hands in front of face…eyes hurt. You can’t see where you are going. If you don’t watch what you are doing, you may bump into someone, fall and/or get hurt. Soon you may get discouraged and sit down. Then, finally, after you understand that your sight is not going to change, what do you do? You retreat back to the dark room; go backwards to where you came from…and stay there because you did not adapt.
Realize that this stuff not only happens, it happens more than we think and will keep on. Your GAP to fill is the realization of this and the maturation involved with being unwavering, steadfast and dependable. There will be some distractions that are larger than others but you grow from them. Decide to adapt and keep growing.